What do you do?
Give your son time to calm down then, when his head is clearer, talk to him about coming home drunk and show your concern. Try to look beyond his behaviour to find the cause of the problem - why didn't he say no to his friends? Try to be firm and hold your stand-point about teenage drinking, but don't judge his friends. It could have been a one-off, and everyone makes mistakes.
If you lecture or patronise, your message won't get through, so try to talk to him calmly and rationally. You'll want to check your son understands that he was putting himself in danger. Make sure your son knows you are there for him and are happy to listen to his point of view. For his own well-being, you want to know who he is with and what he is doing, but you don't want to intrude.
Laying down the law and banning your son from seeing his friends may make the situation worse. If you take too hard a line, he may rebel and carry on drinking, or be less open about what he's doing in the future. Instead, try to discuss the situation together to find a practical solution that suits you both.
